Love is the foundation
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Wednesday, June 9, 2010
11:47 PM
I finally bought The Five Love Languages of your family by Gary Chapman (yes Wong Min Shan actually bought a book to READ. Go buy 4D or Toto cause reading is definitely not my pastime.) It includes the part on Five Love Languages of Children as well which i thought is quite applicable to my job.
There is this part which really caught my attention.
You may find it helpful to frequently remind yourself of some rather obvious things about your children...1. 2. 3. 4. 5...... 6. If I love them only when they meet my requirements or expectations, they will feel incompetent and will believe it is pointless to do their best, since it is never enough. They will always be plagued by insecurity, anxiety, low self-esteem, and anger.
oh well, i am guilty about this point. My expectations of my form class is very high (academically and behaviorally) and these expectations are always changing, adjusting once they attained my set target. I think i forgot that they are children, they act like children and much childish behaviour is unpleasant (which are points 1 2 and 3 --> the obvious things about children that i may need to frequently remind myself about)
I am reminded about my problem kid in class. He don't care about being rewarded by gifts or being praised when i set out to only do these when he meets my expectations on days. So clearly, he doesn't really crave for gifts or words of affirmation. I shall give myself the next 2 months after sch reopens to discover the love language he speaks most loudly so i can top up his love tank and he will (hopefully) stop his nonsense to attract attention.
I am motivated by the stuff taught in the book. Thanks to my 大姐 for recommending it to me.
